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10 Principles of Discipline by Steve Farrar Start early in disciplining your child. How early? Dr Dobson suggests mild spankings between 15 and 18 months. Use discipline for training, not humiliation or venting. Although anger is natural, you are the adult and should control it. Disciplining in anger will build bitterness in the child and simply teach him not to make you angry, rather than training him. Deal swiftly with disrespect. Ephesians 6:1-2. Honor is God’s command of a child and it is up to the parent to insist on it and train it. Discipline rebellion and defiance, NOT childish mistakes. Allow plenty of grace and mercy because a child will be a child. Communicate the rule clearly and enforce it the first time. Make sure your child understands why he/she is being disciplined. There can be not training unless the child understands what they have done wrong. Communication is not negotiation, however. Don’t be afraid to make course corrections or admit when you’re wrong. Even if the wrong you’ve done is slacking on discipline and inconsistent training. Admit the wrong and then get back on course. Husbands and wives must present a united front to the children. Back each other up, even if you don’t agree with your mate. Save your discussion of the matter for when it is just the two of you privately. Kids are quick to pick up on “divide and conquer”. Always discipline with your child’s personality in mind. They are individuals, just as you are, and will resent the injustice of one-size-fits-all discipline. Make sure the punishment fits the crime. Discipline that is too easy invites repetition of the problem. Too hard; and the child becomes bitter and angry. Remember the purpose of discipline is training, not just punishment. Points above in bold are the authors points from his book, ANCHOR MAN. Explanations are edited and explained by the editor, (mac).
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